Hello Friends! I hope you are enjoying your long weekend. I am under the weather today so you may see a bonus post later. This morning I want to talk about something that has rocked parents, children and women’s rights activists into action. I am talking about Miley Cyrus’ performance at the VMA’s. Miley is not the first young lady to do something for shock value. It can be so difficult when a famous role model for young ladies suddenly acts out. We hear the same things over and over again. They say that they did not ask to be a role model and that they just want to be themselves. For my girls, this was difficult because both grew up loving Hannah Montana and they wanted to know why “sweet Miley” was acting so “crazy”. I cannot imagine how much pressure it is to be a child or teen actor, especially once you have been deemed one of “America’s Sweethearts”.
From the sweet girl next door to a raunchy attention grabber, will Miley be able to turn things around? Seeing the reactions of various celebrities was interesting. Very few applauded Miley’s performance, most were horrified. I won’t even get into Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines, that opens up a whole different debate. I can understand Miley wanting to be treated like an adult however this is not the way to go about it. We all have rebellious periods however for celebrities, they cannot hide from the Papparazzi and unfortunately their rebellion is recorded for the world to see. I am hoping this is just a phase for a very talented young lady and that she will be able to turn her life around the way many before her have done.
Jessica Biel was Mary in 7th Heaven, one of the most wholesome tv shows out there. The pressure to be “good” must have been huge. Her character showed some rebellion over the years until Jessica made a bold move to put Mary behind her, Jessica posed topless and the producers had no choice but to let her out of her contract. She was able to break out and do movies and she is one of the strongest females in Hollywood. Whether you agree with her tactics or not, she was able to break out of her constraints and emerge more powerful and confident than ever before.
Britney Spears came onto the scene as America’s Sweetheart. She publicly talked about her strong morals and loving family. As her music career took off, she became more and more sexy and her talent sky rocketed. Unfortunately fame got to her and eventually led to the very public breakdown where she shaved her head and suddenly disappeared from the public eye. Britney came back a few years ago, looking like the Britney everyone adored and seeming stronger than before. Kudos to her for turning it around.
Demi Lovato popped into our living rooms as the sweet, naive Sonny in Disney’s Sonny with a Chance. My girls quickly became fans. They thought she was so talented and of course very funny. As her look on the show got darker, so did the stories of her problems with cutting and depression. Although there were a few stories about her acting out with friends, I am impressed that there are no photos of her at her worst. Demi has come back with Heart Attack, he new album and she looks fabulous. She was able to deal with her problems, seek help and return to the limelight.
For all of these girls, the common theme is pressure. Is it fair to expect an 11-16 year old to be a role model for all girls everywhere? Do we contribute to them eventually cracking and rebelling? Isn’t it most important that we as parents be role models for our children?
I hope Miley turns this all around eventually. Every woman that has has been a great role model for girls everywhere. They teach them that it is never too late to turn it all around.