I hope you have been enjoying your summers. I have been absent from my keyboard as I have been soaking every minute up that I can with the family. I find myself pausing often to have a quiet moment of gratitude for the riches in my life. Those riches are not measured in material things, they are my loved ones. I am so blessed.
My youngest, Ciara has never been an avid swimmer. For some reason, she hated getting her face wet. As a baby, she would scream and wail during bath time. She failed swim tests. Nothing seemed to help with this. Lessons, her big sister, me; no one could get through to help her over come her fears. She constantly said she couldn’t do it. I became resolved to the idea that she might never be confident in the water.
Until this week!
CiCi and I had spent a lot of time practicising her swimming in our backyard pool, at the beach and this summer we discovered our local out door swimming pools. The first hurdle was the swim test so that she could go in the deep end. After her first visit, she failed the swim test and declared “I am NEVER going to pass so I am NOT going to take it again”. The next trip to the pool, she practised with me all afternoon. I knew she could do it but her mind was set on “CAN’T”. FInally, 5 minutes before the end of the rec swim, CiCi told me she was ready. She passed her test in the first try.
The next time we came to the pool, CiCi was proudly donning her deep end bracelet and I was inwardly nervous. I told her sister to keep a close eye on her whenever I wasn’t in the pool. My worry was for nothing as she impressed me with her strength.
This past weekend, she told me she wanted to try the diving board. I knew she had come a long way this summer but I was worried. Parents cannot get to close to the diving area and so she would have to swim all the way across to me before she could have a break. After a few false starts, me inwardly freaking out while telling her she CAN do it, she was finally ready to take the plunge. She pranced to the end of the diving board, looked at me for a thumbs up and then her sister on the diving board next to her and together they jumped. My heart stopped as she hit the water. My pulse raced as she surfaced. I realized I had been holding my breath the entire time. The ear to ear grin as she swam towards me with little effort melted my heart. She DID it!
Since then, I have not been able to keep her out of the deep end. She has been diving off the diving boards, off the side of the pool, under water to find things and doing laps! LAPS! The kid who could not swim 5 feet without stopping at the beginning of the summer is doing laps in the deep end.
To say I am proud would be a grave understatement. I am overflowing with love and amazement at this kid. She just needed to get out of the world of “CAN’T” and dive into “CAN”. I knew in my heart she could do these things. She just could not work through her negative self talk until it all just ~clicked~. I am so thankful I was there to witness it.
I hope you can learn from CiCi’s story. Are you living in the world of “CAN’T”? What is it that you REALLY want to accomplish but continue to tell yourself you won’t? I challenge you, my friend, to take the plunge! Once you do, it will all ~click~!